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When clients have trauma or relational wounding from childhood, talk therapy can be re-traumatizing.  Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and EMDR brings in theoretical research about how the brain and nervous system is affected during trauma. This allows therapy to be oriented towards healing the pain in a systematic, safe and non intrusive way. It is unnecessary to dig up the past, but rather address how the body is holding and re-living the past now.

When Talk Therapy Doesn’t Help

If you have experienced therapy not helping much, or if it seems to make things worse, one possible reason is that trauma or developmental trauma might be involved.  When someone experiences a traumatic event in their lives, or experiences early emotional wounding, regular talk therapy may not heal the pain.  When trauma occurs or emotional wounding occurs when we are a young child, prior to having words and concepts to describe our experience, we may not remember the injury in a cognitive way.  This makes recalling and talking about it in therapy difficult.  Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and other trauma based therapies understand this and utilizes the body memory to access and process the traumatic activation and pain.

Mindfulness and Trauma Informed Meditation

Many people find it difficult to quiet their minds and find an inner peace or even tolerate silence.  When there has been trauma it becomes even more difficult to quiet the mind or to settle inside.  The body and mind is on alert, and feels the need to stay alert and on guard in order to maintain safety and security.  Silence and stillness becomes a threat rather than a source of peace and serenity.  With understanding about how the nervous system is responding to these apparent threats, we can adjust meditation practices and find the calm inside.

Relationship Conflicts

Impasses happen in relationships all the time.   Misunderstandings and emotional injuries occur affecting relationship bonds, breaking trust and can cause an escalating conflict if not responded to effectively. These impasses occur within marital relationships, friendships and at times in therapeutic relationship as well.

When this happens in marriages, conflicts escalate and partners move towards protecting themselves from being hurt.  They distance themselves emotionally as a way of protecting themselves from future pain.  There are specific ways of communication that can cause ruptures and there are ways to communicate that strengthen the marital bond.  Bringing awareness to one’s style of communication people can begin to turn a corner towards healthier relationship dynamics.

Therapy Impasses and Ruptures

Sometimes miscommunication can occur within the therapeutic relationship as well and most of the time they are worked through.  When they are not addressed an impasse can occur, leaving the client feeling misunderstood.  If this happens multiple times, therapy can stall out, end prematurely or rupture completely.  The safety and trust within the relationship itself has been injured and needs addressing.  If a rupture occurs it can be traumatic for the client, leaving them with feelings of despair and hopelessness about ever trusting therapists again.  One of my areas of focus is to help clients recover from such experiences.

What I offer:

  • Clinical Assessment and Referral: for clients who want help in finding a therapist that will best meet their needs.
  • Psychotherapy Sessions: for clients interested in mindfulness based psychotherapy
  • Therapy Consultation: for clinicians who are interested in mindfulness based therapy, therapeutic impasses or starting a private practice.